A Lone Stranger

Childhood memories... "There was a time..." We had to go to school on our own, because there was no custom of being dropped off by cycle or bus. Our parents never worried about what good or bad might happen, after sending us to school. They never feared anything either. Pass or fail - that's all we knew. We had nothing to do with percentages. Admitting to going for tuition, was embarrassing, because we might be considered fools. We believed that placing peepal leaves, study leaves, or peacock feathers in our books, would make us smarter. In cloth bags…in satchels…and later in aluminum cases, we were experts at organizing our books and notebooks neatly. Every year, before starting a new class, we would cover our books and notebooks with brown paper - and this was no less than an annual celebration or a festival. At the end of the year, we sold our books and bought used ones for the next year - and never felt ashamed, because back then, neither books nor syllabus, changed ...

Never Marry a Woman Who Thinks Duty Is Oppression Let's flip the script. Modern women don't mind love. They mind responsibility. They say they want a husband… But act allergic to the weight that comes with being a wife. Let's break it down: --- 1. She Wants Rights—But Hates Roles She says she wants marriage. But only if she can rewrite the terms. No submission. No service. No sacrifice. Just: – Her career – Her comfort – Her convenience She wants you to pay the bills, protect the house, lead the vision… But call her "wife"? Suddenly she's not your partner—she's a prisoner. --- 2. Duty Is a Trigger Word to the Modern Woman Say: "A wife should cook." She'll say: "What is this, 1950?" Say: "A wife should support her husband's mission." She'll say: "I'm not losing myself for any man." Say: "Marriage is about sacrifice." She'll say: "That sounds abusive." Everything that once built ...

They thought they were upgrading.  They thought leaving their husbands for "freedom" and "independence" would give them peace, happiness, and self-discovery. Now they're out here with tears behind their makeup, regrets hiding behind motivational captions, and loneliness haunting their nights. Why? Because they listened to bitter, man-hating feminists online who've never built a home, who despise structure, and who thrive on chaos. Here are "10 painful" realities women only realize after destroying themselves, after it's too late: 1. "No One Else Will Tolerate What Their Husband Did" That man they dumped was patient, loving, and forgiving. But outside?  No man is willing to deal with your entitled, combative behavior. 2. "Feminism Doesn't Pay Rent" Online feminists will hype you up,  but when you're broke, lonely,  and falling apart, they won't offer a dime or a shoulder. 3. "Séx̌uäl Market Value Drops with A...

Let's stop pretending. Men don't get married for emotional rollercoasters, mental debates,  or war-room discussions. Men marry for peace. Not just comfort. Peace. Not just kids. Peace. Not just sex. Peace. And here's the brutal truth: You can be beautiful. You can be brilliant. You can be a boss. But if every conversation feels like combat? He'll never come home happy. Let's break it down: 1. "Men Aren't Looking for a Debate Partner" He's had a long day. Deadlines. Traffic. Pressure. And the moment he walks through that door? Boom. > "Why didn't you text back fast enough?" > "Why didn't you take my suggestion?" > "Why do you always do things your way?" Now he's defending himself—at home. He didn't marry you to be cross-examined. He married you because he thought you were his safe place. Turns out, you're the courtroom. 2. "Every Argument Is a Brick in the Wall" Yes, men want smart...

I am writing to share some observations regarding the experiences of women who have undertaken significant life changes with the aim of achieving greater personal fulfillment. It has been noted that numerous women who embark on paths toward independence and self-discovery sometimes experience the ending of their marriages. While the initial expectation may be one of increased peace and happiness, the ensuing reality can present a different set of circumstances. Frequently, the anticipated freedom is accompanied by unforeseen difficulties, such as feelings of loneliness and regret. These feelings can occasionally be attributed to external influences that may encourage certain decisions without fully taking into account the long-term ramifications or the value of stability and commitment. The following are some challenging realities that have been reported by some women following substantial life alterations: 1.  The degree of tolerance and forgiveness they may have known within their ma...

One day, you'll come to understand that some people are simply one of a kind. They don't come around twice. They can't be replaced. And once they're gone, no one else will feel quite the same. We live in a world that celebrates moving on like people are easily swapped out, like connections are disposable. But the truth is, certain bonds leave a mark on your soul. They saw you, understood you, brought out something no one else could. Losing that kind of person isn't just about losing them it's losing a part of yourself that only existed in their presence. Sometimes, we hurt those closest to us. Not because they deserved it, but because we didn't know how to hold their love properly. We assume they'll always forgive, always come back, but not everyone waits. Not everyone gives endless chances. Some walk away silently, carrying their hurt in quiet dignity, and by the time you realize what they meant to you, their absence has already become permanent. You...

If You Make It Too Comfortable for Her to Love You—You'll Never Know If She Does. Because comfort hides character. And ease erases effort. Let's stop acting naive. She didn't love you. She loved how easy it was to be with you. You brought the car. You picked the bills. You paid the rent. You moved her into the good life. And now you're surprised she vanished when things got hard? She didn't change. You just never made her prove anything to begin with. Because if you make it too comfortable for her to love you, you'll never know if she actually does. 1. You Should Have Hidden Your Hand—Not Played It All at Once You showed her your wallet before you saw her heart. You revealed your status before you saw her substance. You led with lifestyle, not leadership. You were busy trying to win her… while she was watching if someone better was coming. You didn't date her. You sponsored her. And when the lifestyle paused, so did the affection. 2. Every Woman Is Sweet in ...

I spent an hour in the bank with my dad, as he had to transfer some money. I couldn't resist myself and asked... ''Dad, why don't we activate your internet banking?'' ''Why would I do that?'' He asked... ''Well, then you wont have to spend an hour here for things like making a transfer. You can even do your shopping online. Everything will be so easy!'' I was so excited about initiating him into the world of Net banking. He asked ''If I do that, I wont have to step out of the house?" ''Yes, yes''! I said. I told him how even groceries can be delivered at your door now and how amazon delivers everything! His answer left me tongue-tied. He said ''Since I entered this bank today, I have met four of my friends, I have chatted awhile with the staff who know me very well by now. You know, I am alone...this is the company that I need. I like to get ready and come to the bank. I have enough time, it is...

Here's the thing about people with good hearts.  They give you excuses when you don't explain yourself.  They accept apologies you don't give them, even though you should. They see the best in you when you don't need them to. At worst they lift you up, even if it means putting their own priorities aside. The words "too busy" does not exist in their vocabulary.  They make time even when you don't. And you wonder why they are the most sensitive people. You wonder why they're the most caring people. You wonder why they are willing to give so much, without expecting anything in return. You wonder why their existence is not so essential to your well-being. It's because they don't let you work hard for the attention they give you. They accept the love they think they've earned, and you think they're entitled too.  Let me tell you something. Fear the day when a good heart gives up on you. Our skies don't become gray out of nowhere. Our sun...

1. There will be times I will be so mad at you and cold towards you. It's not that I hate you. I am just disappointed by what you did, my love hasn't gone anywhere 2. There will be times I will not spend as much time with you as you wish me to. It's not that I am ignoring you, I am working hard for our future 3. There will be times I will say or do something wrong. It's not that I meant to hurt you, we all fall short sometimes. Forgive me, teach me to love you 4. There will be friends in my life. But never doubt that you are my priority 5. There will be moments when I will not be that conversational, I will not be so fun to talk with. It's not that I find you boring. My mood has changed, I need some minutes to myself, I will come around 6. There will be moments where I want to scream at you and say all that is in my head in anger. It's not that you are my enemy, but sometimes you get on my nerves. I will control my temper and my tongue, you're still the one ...

For so many of us kissing is a prelude, something we do that leads to something else. And for some people it's something they have to do to get to the next step. Conscious Kissing is its own incredible moment of being. There is nothing else other than the delicious sensation, the feeling, the taste of our mouths.    Kissing is one of the most intimate acts we can share with a partner, in fact there are times when kissing is more intimate than sex. Kissing brings us closer together than anything. Because kissing is so intimate, it also expresses our emotional state. Kissing is the sharing of our essence. In the exchange of fluids and breath we mix ourselves with our lovers. Our kiss is a communication. As well as being arousing it's a journey we take our partners and ourselves on. In the delicate touch of lips and tongues we tell where we are. Our intention, our love and our desire are communicated in the moment. We can bring ourselves into presence during our kiss. It's not...

As a Wife, Your BEAUTY attracts your husband, but your WISDOM will continue to keep him!  Your ELEGANCE catches his ATTENTION, but your INTELLIGENCE convinces him!  NAGGING irritates your husband, but your "Constructive Silence" weakens him!  Remember that the "boyish" character in your husband comes out occasionally, But your ability to always handle it, is a sign that you are a MATURED WIFE!  Every man has "Secret Struggles and Pains, including your husband, if you should ever find them out from him, Please exhibit the greatest maturity by asking the Originator of your marriage, (THE HOLY SPIRIT) to help you with USEFUL IDEAS, that you will suggest to him (your husband)!  In the long-run, your WORDS matters to your husband than your "LOOKS"! So always invest the RIGHT WORDS!  Earn your husband's respect and he will consider you as the yard-stick for all his actions!  Learn to mould your husband's moods, and he will naturally give you his ...

Yesterday evening, I was just scrolling through my news feeds on here and I came across a post that was posted in one of the popular Facebook group like that. The post says, "As a lady, mention 3 free things a guy can benefit from dating you." The post interested my mind and I went to the comment section to see what the ladies have to say. I was baffled with the kind of answers I saw there. I'm sorry to say this, from the comment section, it was very obvious that many ladies have nothing to offer.  Some say good sex, good food, peace of mind, company, jokes, etc. The one that really baffled me was the answer of one particular lady. She said she had nothing to offer. I don't know if she was joking or serious but that was what inspired this write up. Before then, I saw one video of a lady on Instagram ranting that no guy should approach her in this 2020 if he's not capable and ready to spoil her silly, buy her Peruvian and Brazilian hairs, take her on vacation bla b...

In a healthy relationship, there are certain things you shouldn't have to beg for because they come naturally to a woman who genuinely cares for you.🥰 PICTURES: ```When your girlfriend truly loves you, sharing pictures is a delightful way of staying connected. It could be a selfie from her day, a funny meme, or a sweet moment captured in a photo. These little visual snippets are a way of saying, "I want to share my life with you." They show that she values your bond enough to keep you updated and involved in her daily experiences.``` QUALITY TIME TOGETHER: ```Spending quality time together is a fundamental aspect of a loving relationship. When your partner loves you, she won't make you beg for her time and attention. Instead, she'll eagerly look forward to moments when you can be together, whether it's for a romantic dinner, a movie night, or just cuddling on the couch. Her willingness to prioritize your relationship speaks volumes about her affection.``` A T...

1. There are many things more precious than money It is easy to be enslaved by the mindset that money is the most imperative treasure in society. Money is always transient, just like most things in life. It comes and goes, but how much are you willing to pay for the fleeting pleasure? The consequences of a money-mentality are much more damaging than the value of money itself. Are you willing to put your mental, emotional, and physical well-being on the line? There are things more precious than money. Here are a few: -Experiences -Genuine connections -A feeling of purpose -Genuine concern for helping others -Eddie says, "there are many things in this world that no amount of money will buy you, and some things are priceless beyond measure." 2. Weakness can be turned into hatred Weak people lack the ability to maintain any level of emotional intelligence. People who lack emotional intelligence and a strong sense of self are easily influenced to hate. Their values and convictions...

WHAT YOU SHOULD DO DURING A MISUNDERSTANDING TO AVOID IT FROM GETTING OUT OF HAND. Misunderstanding is something you can never do without in a relationship/marriage, misunderstandings would come to either make your relationship weaker or stronger, you can make your relationship strive no matter the misunderstanding that comes your way if you know how to handle them when they come. Most people who do not know how to handle misunderstandings in their relationships/marriages have become victims of divorce and heartbreak. If you can master how to handle misunderstandings when they come, be rest assured that you're going to enjoy a beautiful relationship. HOW TO HANDLE MISUNDERSTANDING 📌LISTEN:  The first thing to do during a misunderstanding is not shout back at your spouse, the first thing to do is to listen to what they are saying and try to understand where they are coming from, even when they are screaming on top of their voices, relax, be calm and listen. 📌DON'T RETALIATE: I...

How many men have I heard that they want a "smart woman" in their life ! .. I would encourage them to think about this... Smart women make decisions for themselves, have their own desires and set boundaries. You will never be the center of her life because it revolves around herself.  A smart woman will not allow herself to be manipulated or blackmailed, she takes responsibility. Smart women question, analyze, argue, are not satisfied, move forward. Those women had a life before you and I know they will continue to have once you are gone. She warns, she doesn't ask for permission. These women are not looking for a leader to follow, a father to solve their lives, or a son to save them. They don't want to follow you or mark someone's path. They want to walk beside you. She knows that life without violence is a right, not a luxury or a privilege. They express their anger, sadness, joy, and fear in the same way, fear doesn't make her weak, the same way anger doesn...

ANGER: If he/she easily gets angry when you have a little misunderstanding, he/she doesn't tolerate jokes, be conscious before you committed to him/her. THREATENING YOU: If he/she threatening to leave you when you have a little argument, he/she will threatening and may leave you in marriage, be wise. BEATING YOU: If he beat you up every time, if he slaps you during an argument, he will do the worst in marriage. Be wise.  LACK OF COMMUNICATION:  If you are the only one that does all the calling, caring, messaging, texting... It depicts that you are forcing yourself on him/her. A man/woman that truly loves you will show it through his/her actions, he/she will not make excuses, they will find time to connect with you no matter how busy their schedule is. He/she will see you as their priority...Be sensitive. WOMANIZER: If he womanizes, if you always see him with different girls, if he cheats on you on countless occasions,  he may not change if you marry him. Look well before you leap. ...

1. ADMIT YOU ARE WRONG  Many grown-ups are not humble enough to admit to their fault. Will you mess up your love just because of your pride?  2. EXPLAIN WHY YOU DID WHAT YOU DID  Give the background sequence of events that led to you being on the wrong. A blank apology doesn't address the issue 3. HEAR  FROM YOUR PARTNER HOW HE/SHE FEELS  Allow your partner to vent, cry, shout, and tell you how much your actions/words pain him/her. Emotions and hurt shouldn't be hidden if true reconciliation and healing are to occur. This also shows you care for your partner's feelings 4. SAY SORRY  Let your partner hear you say those words, 'I am sorry, please forgive me' 5. COMMIT TO NOT DOING IT AGAIN  Say you won't repeat the mistake and mean it.  An apology is empty if it's not sincere 6. HEAR FROM YOUR PARTNER IF YOU ARE FORGIVEN  Get to hear your partner tell you 'I forgive you'. It has to be official 7.  THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR FORGIVING YOU Appreciate the good...

At times we men are accused of not loving our women but the truth. Many men love their women but lack the means to express and outlet that love. Men are creatures of love naturally hence God even said "Husbands love your wives". In history, we record men dying for love since it's their nature to give in love but at times we fail to show that love. 1) Presence; If you truly love your woman be present in her life. Show up in times of need and pain even joy and happiness. The lack of presence of men in women's lives raises concern for care and support. Just be present; be available. 2) Passion; If you truly love your woman then show some passion for her; not just interest like you just like her. Be passionate about her life progress; state of affairs; your conversations; and your physical affection. Passion simply means being live lively and behaving like you are forced to be with her. 3) Publicity; If you want to show how much you love your woman then embrace her public...