Are you with the right partner?
Are you with the right partner?
During a seminar, a woman asked, "How do I know if I am with the right person?" The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her, so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered, "How do you know?" "Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind," replied the author. "Here's the answer. Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural & spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing & then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive & spontaneous experience, but after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens) & your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship. You will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love & a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you &/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" As you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness & look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes & sizes.
Infidelity is the most common, but sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. The answer to this dilemma, does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could & TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in & day out. It takes time, effort & energy & most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it! Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe, (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision", NOT just a feeling."
Remember this always:
God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay & who you refuse to let GO!
Think about it...