Monogamous Relationship

In a monogamous relationship between a man and a woman where the woman takes the feminine pole and the man takes the masculine pole...

The man is the leader. 

The woman is the pace setter. 

The man commands her to open. 

I didn't say demands...

He commands her to open with his conscious presence. 

No words are even needed. 

A conscious man won't settle for less. 

He will go where he is received.

His aim is to always be growing. 

And so for this he commands her openness so that they can grow together in love and intimacy. 

His desire to penetrate permeates and if the feminine has healed her wounds she will naturally respond. 

Because her desire is to be obliterated with his love. 

A conscious man wants to always go deeper. 

To discover the ever winding layers of the woman he is in love with. 

For this he requires openness, and receptivity. 

She is the pace setter. 

We are never FULLY healed.

There is always another layer. 

And so the woman responds to man's command with her openness as he takes her to her edge, and beyond...

The man's key role is the holding of this sacredness. 

When a woman expresses her uncomfortability, her fears, or whatever is coming up for her, it's the man's job to adjust the sails. 

He knows where the ship is going, but he's not attached to how long it takes to get there, or even if it makes it there at all, he is open to the truth of the moment.

It's a never ending sea of exploration, and for the feminine to truly open there must be NO demands, coercion, manipulation, or expectations. 

The unforeseen will inevitably come, and a conscious man will see and feel into what is necessary in that moment. 

Too many men are lost in entitlement. 

"I'm the man, I'm the leader. You're supposed to follow."

She's not "supposed" to DO anything...

And she's got a "FUCK no" for that. 

As men it's not our job to rush things. 

Having the patience to take things slow and steady and hold space for when delicate things are touched and need to be worked through is the very thing that will ACTUALLY get you what you want. 

Especially... and first and foremost, with ourselves.

Loving connection, and even deeper penetration. 

Rushing, pushing, and demanding will only usher in closure and disconnection. 

She requires steadfastness in times of chaos.

Can you hold it?

Can you hold yourself?

When you're feeling frustrated when you're not getting what you want, can you breath deeper and look inside to see what's coming up in you? 

This is the task set before us if we want to go even deeper than we ever thought possible. 

Can we be intimate with our own chaos?

Our own fears?

Our own desires?

Our own shadow?

If we can't do this, we will never be able to hold space for our partner. 

And she won't open if she doesn't feel safe. 

She envokes his unwavering presence. 

He commands her into pleasure. 

Patience, presence, openness, and a calm cool center. 

This is love.

This is the dance.

Masculine and Feminine. 

Cheers 🥂🥂🥂